Large & Healthy

Be supportive with sensitivity

Published on September 24, 2004 By CamMeg In Misc

Being larger then what the height/weight chart states you should be according to your age doesn't necessarily mean your not healthy. I am writing this article to make those who do not have issues with their weight as well as those who do and may feel bad or guilty about the weight they have gained.

We gain weight for a variety of reasons just to name a few increased stress,medical issues,having a child,not as active due to schedules or no time to cook hitting the fast food drive~thru's. Regardless of the reasons of how it happened,you are no longer the tone teen you once were

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Does it mean your unhealthy? Perhaps or may be not

Before someone tries to enlighten me to the heart works harder with the extra weight of course it does this article is about accepting the fact that weight loss that is lasting takes time so you need to be comfortable with your new size.

Once you have recognized you have gained the weight accepting it as who you are now. You need to continue to appreciate your body even when it's not tone. It's ok to be larger as long as you continue to exercise daily in some way and make good food choices not denying the occassional treat.

If you do have a health condition such as High Blood Pressure,Diabetes,High Cholestrol we all know that adjusting your diet is a necessary reality as well as incorporating an exercise program enabling you to gain control of your health issue.

When your overweight it is quite insulting when someone assumes you eat too many of the wrong things or you are not exercising enough. These messages are not supportive in anyway nor do they help. Some believe they are just assisting in daily awareness by these comments. Here's a NEWS FLASH ....You're not........ the person with the issue is quite aware and are the only one that can make the decision of what path they want to take.

It's ok too support or have concern for the person in your life that has this issue. It's all in your approach of the support offered being sensitive to how they are feeling. Some of the negative thoughts you may have in regard to their new size are thoughts that also has crossed their mind and do not need validated.

Always remember how would you feel? If you were the person with a weight issue.

Exercise with them,Compliment & Encourage.

Be a positive light in the person you care abouts life

Have a good evening~

Peace,Love,Health & Happiness~ Extended to all

Comments

Texas Wahine

on Sep 24, 2004

CamMeg: Great article.

When your overweight it is quite insulting when someone assumes you eat too many of the wrong things or you are not exercising enough. These messages are not supportive in anyway nor do they help. Some believe they are just assisting in daily awareness by these comments. Here's a NEWS FLASH ....You're not........ the person with the issue is quite aware and are the only one that can make the decision of what path they want to take.

This is very true. Many times overweight people consume less calories than those who are naturally thin. While calories in and calories out still rules as far as weight loss and weight gain goes, there are many factors that contribute to a person's being overweight, and not all of them are under that person's control.

I think you have also made an excellent point about health. There are many thin people who eat very poorly and get little physical activity simply because they are naturally thin and feel no need to change their habits. Outwardly they may look thin and healthy, but in reality they are abusing their bodies. And of course, many heavier people are very health conscious and eat well, excercise, get appropriate amounts of rest, etc. It is discriminatory to assume that an overweight person is an unhealthy person or someone who makes poor choices when you don't have full knowledge of their lifestyle.

Sorry to ramble, CamMeg. Excellent post.

CamMeg

on Sep 24, 2004

Thank~you Texas I apreciate the reply no problem feel free to ramble anytime I share in that ability hehe

Keo Lin

on Sep 26, 2004

WOO WOO!! *dances*

Today, I was getting ready for work. Standing in the supermarket, I was holding two bottle of juice and looking at the chocolate section. My loving father, comes beside me and says, you shouldn't eat chocolate. Implying that the huge 50g chocolate bar I was thinking of buying will cause me to expand to the size of a house... I am quite used to these negative/snid comments from my father, who also is not the thinest chap on the block. So I seriously tell him: Never tell a woman she can't have chocolate. You may lose your life. Not a threat, or a I'll hurt if you say that again. Just a general piece of information that I have gathered from interacting with women. We LOVE chocolate (well most women) some of us may not eat it all the time as other's do. But the love is still there. It's like men and alcohol/football/pies.

I would myself love it, if my father would stop "pointing" out to my mum and I our roundness... But I think he will never stop... Maybe I need to invest in some duct tape

CamMeg

on Sep 26, 2004

Thanks Keo and I agree we LoVe chocolate and hehe invest in the duct tape anyway it has many uses hehehe Lalala Use your imagination

expertcoder

on Sep 26, 2004

Duct Tape if you can't fix it with duct tape it ain't broke. Duct tape the many uses of it. Both as an adhesive and as the international shutter-upper of ignorant males.

CamMeg

on Sep 26, 2004

I Completely agree Expert hehe thanks for the post I will keep that in mind for future reference hehe

mgosh

on Oct 08, 2004

Duct tape! Just don't use it as electrical tape. Or you're be in for some trouble!

stevendedalus

on Oct 11, 2004

When your overweight it is quite insulting when someone assumes you eat too many of the wrong things or you are not exercising enough. These messages are not supportive in anyway nor do they help.

So very true!--just compounding the problem with emotional stress.

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